I'm really into executing my goals. I'm driven by achievement and accomplishing what I set out to feels so damn good (I'm a 3 on the Enneagram personality test).
However, there have been times that I've completely fallen short on goals. I used to beat myself up about it, not accomplishing something made me feel like a failure. Which translated to major low vibes for me.
We each define what success looks like and it looks different for everyone.
In taking baby steps on my self-care journey, I've found solace in looking at things with a growth mindset.
WTF is that exactly?
It's a reframing of how I look at things.
Here's how things used to be...
1. As a student if I studied hard for a test and still didn't get an A, I would believe that I was not smart.
2. As a teacher I believed that if I taught a lesson and all the students didn't get it that I was a bad teacher.
3. When I became a stay at home mom if I didn't get myself dressed, the baby dressed, clean or fold something, I saw myself as inept for not being able to handle the "easy" things.
Here's how things are now...
I didn't get to _________ today. There is always tomorrow and I am so glad I spent my time doing __________ because it's what I felt I needed.
I know that I am capable of achieving what I want to, I just place my energy in loving the climb rather than the destination. Baby steps are still steps and I know I'll get there.
If I am not getting the desired outcome, I stop and ask, "what am I missing here?" Rather than see myself as the problem, I find solutions in looking for the lessons.